October 12, 2023
The phrase May – December marriage refers to a couple with considerable age difference. The actual number of years is up for debate but the issue is each person may be at a different stage in their life. As we approach retirement, this difference becomes magnified.
If Spouse A is approaching or at retirement while Spouse B is still working, then there may be a disconnect on how the next cycle of years will be lived. On numerous occasions we’ve seen the older spouse ready to retire and travel while the younger spouse is at the peak of their career.
According to Pew Research:
There are qualitative and quantitative issues to address. On the qualitative side, it is what any good relationship requires – talk with each other. The two of you need to come up with a compromise that neither of you will resent and both of you endorse. It may be necessary engage a professional to facilitate the discussions but your ages aren’t going to change so your approach has to.
Quantitative issues should be addressed as early as possible. A retirement projection can provide information for savings to cover both life spans. Using Jill as an example: she is 13 years younger than Bonnie. If we assume death occurs at age 95, then money has to last until Jill’s age 95. If Jill is 73 and Bonnie is 86, the calculation is 9 years for Bonnie plus another 13 for Jill so a total of 22 years the money has to last.
Steps You Can Take
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